Sometimes you are not the problem (nor the solution), but a guest character convinced to be playing the main part in this cheap conspiracy called reality.
I believe exes are one of the most important component of the so-called lesbian drama, and they can’t let go. Some exes were ghosts even before they turned into exes. Some exes return and technically they were queuing before you. As Al Rice says in The 22 Immutable Laws of Marketing : better to be first than to be better.
Am I better? Well at least I have a blog and I’m funny.